A recent study, published in Computers in Human Behavior, suggests that sexts between consenting adults, especially those in a committed relationship, can be a good thing. Shutterstock This Week in Sex is a weekly summary of news and research related to sexual behavior, sexuality education, contraception, STIs, and more. […]
Can Snapchat Sexting Help Your Relationship?
I was browsing recent relationship articles from around the web today and I came across the above article about sexting. Over the last few years “sexting” has become mainstream mainly due to controversy it’s created in many of the tabloid publications. Obviously it’s only been around since the advent of the mobile pone, but its it really all that different to two consenting adults writing love letter to each other in the past? Below are some the important parts of the article I’ve identified.
Sexting May Not Be All Bad – You can even find sexting emojis
Sexting can get you in trouble. Just ask former U.S. Rep. Anthony Weiner, his alter ego “Carlos Danger,” or former Alabama Gov. Robert Bentley whose wife busted him after discovering his declarations of love and desire in texts to an employee.
But a recent study, published in Computers in Human Behavior, suggests that sexts between consenting adults, especially those in a committed relationship, can be a good thing.
But sexting isn’t always fun and flirtatious. Dr. Michelle Drouin, one of the article’s authors and a psychologist at Indiana-Purdue University Fort Wayne, told PsyPost that “many people experience regret or worry about the pictures they have sent to recent partners, and some even report discomfort and trauma at the time they sent the pictures.
Men and women are different. Women would like to talk, men are happy with makeup sex
Let’s look at a study on making up after a fight. Researchers at Bucknell University in Pennsylvania conducted their survey in two stages. First, they asked 38 women and 36 men ages 18-54 to each name five acts that their peers might do in order to reconcile with a partner after they’d had a fight. The researchers then combined similar responses to come up with a list of about 20 behaviors such as: gift-giving (flowers, etc.); nice gestures (favors, compliments, doing chores, etc.); saying yes to anything or giving in; spending time together; waiting for the partner to apologize; making them laugh or being silly; and sex, among others.
Overall, the most mature routes of communicating—apologizing, forgiving, compromising, and spending time together—were rated as the most effective forms of reconciliation. But again, not surprisingly, there were some differences between men and women. Specifically, men rated a partner doing nice gestures or giving sex or sexual favors as more effective in helping them reconcile than women did. In contrast, women rated taking some space or their partner just spending time with them, apologizing, and crying as more effective than men did.
To me there is nothing wring with sexting between two consensual adults. Maybe I’m old fashioned, but what happened to just picking up the phone actually talking things through. I get it if there is a feeling or flirting or satisfaction from the mere fact that you can play games with a mobile phone. Not once though have I experienced or found a text to be more beneficial than actually calling. But hey, like I said, maybe I’m old fashioned. He’ll whiole researching this article I even found out it’s just not on mobile phones, you can use Snapchat, Chatzy, Skype, Kik, Apps, and whole host of other ways.
In any case, there has been a lot of buzz about “texting your ex back” – You can find out more in detail here: https://www.relationshiproadblocks.com/textback